Use My Voice

Speaking up about the issues I can't get out of my head or heart.

When Will I Get Over It?

“It’s time to move on.”

“We all have to come together now and work for the good of our country.”

“You have to respect the Office of The President regardless who holds it.”

‘When are you just going to get over it?”

I have been reading these words a lot in recent days (well actually they started the day after the election).  There is the obvious irony of people who have spent eight years showing an unprecedented level of disrespect to President Obama (whose administration is leaving the White Hose scandal free) now calling on everyone to show respect to Office of The President, but that’s not what I want to talk about. I want to try and answer the question, “When are you just going to get over it?” I have given it some thought and here is when I suppose I will “get over it”.

  • When I get the image of my  fourteen year old son’s face as he watched Trump mock a disabled man out of my head. You see my son has a very severe form of dyslexia and ADHD and sensory issues, so at times he struggles to find the right words or pick up on all the correct social cues, but he works really hard to overcome his disabilities. My son knew that Trump was mocking people like him. To get over that would be to tell my son that his disabilities are a joke that powerful people can use to get what they want. It would be telling my daughter that the boy in her class that said she should eat lunch at the “special needs table” because she can’t read and should not eat lunch with other first graders was right. Sorry, I have too much at stake to get over this one.
  • When I no longer hear him saying the words,  “Sometimes you just have to grab them by the pussy, you can do that when you are a star.” ringing in my ears. How women or men who have any respect for women voted for Trump after this I will never understand. Getting over these words  (or excusing them as locker room talk) would be telling my sons that they are acceptable and would be telling my daughter that her body is for any powerful man’s taking whenever he wants. No, sorry once again too much at stake here to be getting over this one.
  • When I feel confident that LGBTQ people fully have the same rights as I do. Much progress has been made in the last eight years and I will not sit by and watch their rights be take away. Also, let’s not forget in many states you can be fired from your job because of your sexual orientation.There is still too much at stake.
  • When the phrase Black Lives Matter is  not a devise one. If we do not acknowledge the continued effect of a nation built on slavery we will never end the systemic racism in our country. I have spent a lot of time listening to my black friends over the last few years and I still have so much to learn, so once again, there is too much at stake.
  • When I feel public education is respected and safe in this country. Yes, I home school two of my children but I will fight for quality public education every step of the way. This week we all saw how much respect public education is given by this administration and I think we should all be able to agree that there is way too much at stake if we lose quality public education.
  • When they finally pass a healthcare law that is better than the Affordable Care Act. The ACA has plenty of flaws and in my opinion does not do enough to reduce the economic burden of health care on out country. However, it does ensure that my children with pre-existing conditions (and millions of others) cannot be denied healthcare. It also ensures that your insurance cannot put a cap on how much they will spend on you. Oh yeah and it also offers insurance to millions of people who were not previously covered. Literally people’s lives are at stake with this one.

Finally, I suppose I will get over this with he actually starts acting presidential. When he stops paying attention to SNL, TV ratings and picking fights on Twitter with civil rights icons.He needs to stop calling people who do not support him or his agenda “losers” and “enemies”. This time tomorrow he will be President of the United States, it’s time he starts acting like it. He has to be the one to reach out to others, to listen and show that he actually wants to make our country a greater place for all of it’s people. So to answer the question I do not suppose I will be “getting over it” any time soon, there is just too much at stake.

 

 

 

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